Thursday, April 25, 2013

Being a Food-Allergy Mom

I've tried many times to express my feelings and frustrations about being a food-allergy mom, but could never get the words right.  Carissa K did a way better job explaining what it's like than I ever could have.

Her article on the Huffington Post perfectly described what it's like.  I've not been secretive about the issues that we have had, how much anxiety it causes me, and how it's changed our lives.  But there have been many other times that I have been so upset and frustrated because of what a friend thinks and has said.

I know that people don't understand when we tell them that we cannot be at a party or get together if peanuts or peanut butter is present.  I know they think that I'm overprotective or exaggerating.  But I'm  not.  I don't let it bother me 90% of the time, but the other part of the time, it really eats at me.

I loved how Carissa K said:

1. As the parent of a child with food allergies, it makes us crazy when people make any sort of assumption about food allergies other than this one assumption -- a food allergy is a life-threatening condition that causes children to stop. breathing. immediately. It's very real... and it's very scary.
2. As the parent of a child with food allergies we want you to know that this is not a lifestyle choice. While it's admirable that some people choose to eat healthy and be aware of the ingredients in their food, we aren't standing in the grocery store aisle reading the label on everything that goes into our cart as a hobby. We're studying those ingredients to make sure there's not an obscure ingredient that could kill our children.
If we are friends in real life, and if you have ever been frustrated or didn't understand me, please read this.  If you know someone, maybe a nephew or child at your church, that has a food allergy, please read this.  If I can help just one person understand, it could make all the difference to me and possibly, my child's life.

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  1. Thank you for this critical reminder... I am usually sensitive to other moms with kids that have peanut allergies, but your post inspires me to truly understand the complexities and seriousness of it all. Bless you for all your efforts and emotional trials in keeping your precious babe safe! It must be such a difficult journey...

  2. As a classroom teacher, I've had students with severe food threatening peanut allergies. It helped me to really appreciate the parent's perspective and what life it like for the family.

    While no one in my home has these kinds of food allergies, I do relate to feeling misunderstood or judged. It's a rotten feeling. I'm sorry and hope that the 10% of time that those things bother you will become less and less.

  3. I loved your post... You are an inspiration to all living with the same problem. Hats off to you.
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  4. My daughter has food allergies as well - hers react in the form of eczema. Nonetheless, it is tremendously life changing and can be very wearing. Keep up the great job you are doing for your child. May the Lord continue to give you and your family the daily strength you need.


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