Tuesday, June 12, 2012

What the Baby Books Don't Tell You!

I've loved this series over at Life Rearranged.

life rearranged

It has prompted me to come up with my own list of what the Baby Books don't tell you!

When I think back, I'm immediately drawn to my pregnancy and birth with Layne.  I was young (22-23) and was just so excited to actually be having a baby.  I didn't give much thought to the birth itself.  I read What to Expect While Expecting - worse pregnancy book ever.

I also bought into my family history way too much.  My mom had three c-sections because her pelvic bones were too narrow.  I am shorter than she is.  I was there for my baby sister's first daughter's birth where she had a failed induction that led to a c-section.  Deep down, I was scared and partially convinced that I may have to have a c-section.  I'd shared my concerns with my OB and everything.

And history repeated itself for me (Layne's Birth Story).  I was offered to be induced at 41 weeks (really 40 wks 3 days according to my true due date) and I jumped at the opportunity!  Yes, I was ready to meet my baby!  But there was no medical reason for induction.  After 18 hrs of pitocin labor, the doctor said I wasn't progressing and offered a c-section.  He didn't force me into it or make me feel like I had to do it, but I said yes...and was wheeled into surgery.

What I didn't know...and the baby books didn't tell me, was that there is a whole community out there with amazing information that rebukes the way that America view birth.  And sadly, I didn't find any of this information until I was pregnant with Baby #2. 

I made a lot of bad decisions.  Agreeing to the induction (which greatly increases your chance for C-section), getting the epidural so soon and not being able to move around and get baby in a better position, not waiting longer before I agreed to the c-section and so on. Sometimes c-sections are necessary and can save the life of a baby (like Owen) or a momma, but mine wasn't necessary.  And the baby books didn't tell me what I needed to know to avoid it.

Now I know better.  My body isn't broken!  It can birth a baby!  Gray was born via VBAC.  And now I'm planning another VBAC...hopefully a natural one!

Also - check out what Jeannett's purpose is on her blog.  I love it.  Raising funds for worth causes...like Xander's Adoption Fund and Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep Foundation.

3 comments:

  1. Amen to that!!! I wish I would have known more of the "real" life things with my first one. This sounds like a great idea! I'm so excited for you and this new baby coming!

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  2. I've had 2 c-sections. My first one because my son was breach and my second because it was July in Texas and I couldn't wait it out for a VBAC another day! Love my Dr., both of my delivery experiences were amazing, and most importantly I had 2 perfect babies!

    I enjoyed reading your story. Congrats on your third! You're amazing!

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  3. I really enjoyed the wisdom of Ina May's Guide to Childbirth. It's mostly got a following of midwife-led natural birthing mamas, but I think the gems of wisdom in that book are beneficial to almost anyone convinced that our bodies are designed by God to birth and can do so very efficiently.

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